Why am I always bored and negative

Bored of everything

  • Hello everyone and Merry Christmas :) I've been bored for a long time. I've been hard to inspire for years. Even as a child I had to try all sorts of things and then stopped again. But now I find it so exhausting that everything in my life quickly bores me. In…
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  • The only difference is my approach: Nothing is a known activity. Everything is always different and the how, that turns out when I do it. That's why I see everything I've done as if I was doing it for the first time, regardless of whether it is painting, cooking, bathing or talking to others.

    You get bored after doing something once, others after a few months. The attitude that at some point you would or would know something or someone well enough contains, among other things, a prejudice, namely that you can know something or someone so far that there is nothing new to discover. This kills your curiosity or the attitude to be curious and interested.

    I am a very reflective person and often rethink my actions, statements, etc. Accordingly, I also ask for feedback and consider which things are perhaps not so cool and where I could / should change something.

    We see things differently with the "known" things. On the one hand I consciously chose quotation marks, on the other hand it is up to everyone how they perceive their activities. If it's always like the first time for you, that's great for you. It's not like that for me. That's why I get bored of many things very quickly. But boredom is not an intentional decision. Perhaps it is better described as saying that the activities offer too little complexity, tension, experience, etc. for me. You quickly under challenge me. They are too dreary, they don't keep me busy or don't motivate me. Even if the same activity can be carried out differently or a different result can come out, the activity is still boring for me. For example when I paint. I don't always do the same thing, it's not the same technique, the same motive, etc. Still, I find the job boring for me. Regardless of whether I'm drawing a portrait, a woman or a man, colorful or black and white - I still get bored quickly.

    I haven't heard your description from anyone around me. This is not a rating, just an empirical value from me. So I don't think there is a right or wrong or "better or worse". I wish you can keep the quality.

  • Thank you Melete! You put it very aptly. The "doing" arises in the present.

  • We see things differently with the "known" things. On the one hand I consciously chose quotation marks, on the other hand it is up to everyone how they perceive their activities.

    That's the way it is. Anyone can hold it as he likes.

    I haven't heard your description from anyone around me. This is not a rating, just an empirical value from me. So I don't think there is a right or wrong or "better or worse". I wish you can keep the quality.

    I didn't get my attitude as an example from my surroundings and then found a lot of things boring, shit and just the general thing, what you have noticed or not after your upbringing. It was very exciting for me to think about evaluations, such as B. when something is complex and where someone else sees a complexity that I do not perceive or what should be better about it if I attribute complexity to a thing. All purely subjective evaluations that I can keep or change my perception, just like my evaluation. It was a very exciting months to deal with what is a rating and what is not. It's all about what I define as good for myself and not about which attitude would be worse for me. Just getting up and telling myself that today is going to be an exciting and exciting day, with which I regulate my mood and my attitude and, of course, I was not shown that way. It's obvious that it didn't turn out like this from one day to the next, and sometimes I just prefer a negative attitude. It is also a never-ending process. But when I'm bored, then I know that it's just me and I can't stand boredom for long. Z. For example, an evening with people talking about topics that don't interest me. I always prefer a book or just sit there and take in a beautiful picture. I have to change that because it's not good for me. Doesn't mean that there are no crises, that I don't have times that I just curse. What I enjoy again is being grumpy at times.

  • I don't have a real hobby that inspires me, because everything bores me directly.

    Interesting. Nothing really inspires me either. However, I am never bored. I'm interested in almost everything and learning new things is always possible.
    Probably not necessarily a solution for you, I just wanted to throw in that you don't have to be enthusiastic right away in order not to get bored. A certain serenity and basic curiosity would actually be enough to avoid being bored.

  • But painting also always bores me quickly.

    So do you only paint because you are good? Why don't you give it up? Distance often helps to achieve greater clarity.

    Is there nothing in your life that you do and suddenly you look at the clock and are surprised because a lot of time has passed unnoticed?

  • I don't have a real hobby that inspires me, because everything bores me directly.

    Interesting. Nothing really inspires me either. However, I am never bored. I'm interested in almost everything and learning new things is always possible.
    Probably not necessarily a solution for you, I just wanted to throw in that you don't have to be enthusiastic right away in order not to get bored. A certain serenity and basic curiosity would actually be enough to avoid being bored.

    In fact, I'm very curious and try a lot. I also checked out what was going on in the new city. But so far I've only found the same standard stuff, so various sports clubs and such. I have to see how I can get other things here, unfortunately it's a small town ^^

  • But painting also always bores me quickly.

    So do you only paint because you are good? Why don't you give it up? Distance often helps to achieve greater clarity.

    Is there nothing in your life that you do and suddenly you look at the clock and are surprised because a lot of time has passed unnoticed?

    Well, I haven't painted for many times in my life. It's a job that is okay, but that doesn't inspire me in the long term. And in fact there is no where I lose track of time.

    For example, I often paint on the one hand because I can do very well and you should give space to an extraordinary talent. On the other hand, it is at least something that I do, I can't do anything. I'm actually turning the wheel: D

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