What are typical boy problems

Problems in puberty: typically girls, typically boys!

5 typical problems faced by girls during puberty

Beauty ideal of female teenagers

Adolescent girls often worry about not being beautiful enough and feel under pressure from a very early age to have to be slim; Permanent self-examination in the mirror, in front of the camera, etc. serves to reassure you that you look “good”. Can get out of hand, lead to violent self-criticism and in the worst case lead to an eating disorder.

  • How to best help your daughter:
    Be sure to convey to your daughter that regardless of your looks or outfit, she is adorable. Don't complain about your looks, but don't encourage over-the-top vanity either. Girls should be careful with diets (yo-yo effect etc.) and stay critical here.

Anger and aggression during puberty

Girls tend to swallow anger and aggression and to judge against yourself. Common role models sometimes play a role here.

  • How to best help your daughter:
    Let your daughter be angry sometimes, it's good for her. If you recognize autoaggressive or depressive tendencies, seek advice from a youth or family therapist.

Quarrel with best friend

How to best help your daughter in an argument with her best friend: Don't meddle, don't talk badly of the girlfriend, but be supportive. Most of the time, these conflicts regulate themselves again.


How to best help your daughter with lovesickness: The same applies here: Don't talk badly about the boy, but stay by your daughter's side for support. For example, tell your child about your own experiences with lovesickness.

Violent conflicts with the mother, power struggles and accusations

Girls find it more difficult than boys to break away from their mother, since she is both an object of identification and role model as well as the closest reference person.

  • How to best help your daughter: Don't see your daughter as a friend! Try to understand your daughter's allegations as attempts at emancipation and not as a declaration of war against you personally. Practice letting go! Be patient.


Typical problems faced by boys during puberty

Pubescent boys tend to be impulsive

Boys are often very impulsive and not very reflective.

  • How best to help your son: Stay calm as possible. Consider the dramatic remodeling process going on in the teenage brain and be patient.


Boys are more inclined than girls to expose their energy and then quickly appear "aggressive".

  • How best to help your son: Think about whether it is really excessive aggression in your son or simply excess energy. Make sure your son can exercise. Physical fun fights with dad are also very important and helpful for boys now!

Risk-taking among boys during puberty

Boys are more willing to take risks and sometimes try out more dangerous things. This can include a child taking drugs, drinking a lot or trying "tests of courage".

  • How to best help your son: As long as all of this is kept within limits, there is nothing wrong with it. If you are worried, talk to him and give him legal "kicks", such as climbing, bungee jumping, etc.

Computer addiction

Boys play "shooting games" ("first person shooters") on the PC more often than girls and are more likely to be addicted to computers or online games.

  • How best to help your son: You only have to intervene if your son neglects his friends and school because of the PC or Playstation activities. Then talk to him and possibly call in a therapist.

Conflicts with the father

During puberty, boys often have conflicts and stress with their father: They question his authority and / or demand his presence through provocations.

  • How best to help your son: Here fathers are called upon to deal with their son: Be a role model for him, remain (or become) present and take your son seriously. Maintain regular father-son conversations and father-son activities.