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How & why you get wet when you get excited (and stay it)

When it comes to sex, "getting wet" has nothing to do with having fun in the shower or on the beach - but with natural vaginal lubrication, the vaginal secretion.
If you have a vagina, you probably know that it is usually always a little damp. Every day the glands in the walls of the vagina produce a fluid that flushes bacteria and dead cells out of your body - this is how it cleanses itself. This discharge is clear to milky-white, and if you don't use hormonal contraception it will change during yours Menstrual cycle and is usually thinner, clearer, and stickier around your ovulation.
The secretion is not only used for cleaning: when you are aroused, your body uses it to produce a natural lubricant that facilitates any type of vaginal penetration - be it with your fingers, the penis or a sex toy, for example.

But what is this vaginal secretion anyway?

Good to know: The body's own lubricant, which is produced when you are aroused, differs from your everyday discharge. Most of the excitation secretion comes from the Bartholin's glands, which are located on the small vulval lips around the vaginal entrance, whereas "normal" discharge occurs in the cervix. In addition, your vulva lips themselves become moist: As soon as blood rushes into your genitals, the vulva begins to “sweat” and thus produces additional moisture.

How can I make me get wet?

One thing in particular helps: preparation - in the form of foreplay. And the rule is: do what you like. Kissing, petting, "dry sex", dirty talk - if you are already aroused before penetration, optimal gliding conditions are ensured.
At least in theory, because many people do not produce enough lubricant to make vaginal penetration comfortable, despite being very excited. It's called Excitation mismatch and is not uncommon in people with a vagina. "This leads to a discrepancy between the feeling of arousal and the natural genital functions," explains sex educator and author Emily Nagoski. "It's a common phenomenon that happens to almost everyone with a vagina once in a lifetime."
Many factors can contribute to poor lubrication - such as hormonal contraception methods, breastfeeding, medication such as antihistamines and antidepressants, smoking or even under-drinking water.

What can I do if I just don't get wet?

Of course, it can be frustrating when the body just doesn't want to like the head - but at least for this problem there is a very simple solution: lubricant. And even for those who have no trouble getting wet, lubricants can make sex even better.
Nagoski agrees. "How wet is wet enough? Most bodies only produce enough fluid for a few minutes of penetration - that's why it should everyonewho: who has penetrative sex, use lubricant. "

Which lubricant is the best choice?

There's no one-size-fits-all answer to the question - it's more a matter of taste and sexual activity you plan on. If, for example, a latex condom is used, you should make sure when buying the lubricant that it is water-based to reduce the risk of a torn condom.