Why should we appreciate what we have

We enjoy little of what we have but very much appreciate what we lack

Last update: August 18, 2020

One of our biggest problems is that we enjoy little of what we have, but appreciate too much what we lack. Exaggerating what we miss is a common and unrealistic way of thinking about our situation. Although our goals are born out of what we lack, it is a mistake to reinforce needs for something we don't need.

Sometimes we fall into the error that we need almost everything we don't have and forget our obligation to what we can truly enjoy - people, feelings, and experiences. We miss many unique occasions because we prefer to fantasize than experience reality, perhaps because our dream world is easier to process than reality.

In general, we enjoy little of what we have; this is a pattern that some people follow for life. Experts in the field even speak of the missing piece syndrome to indicate that constant fixation on what we don't havewhich sometimes borders on obsession.

Don't wait until you've got everything to enjoy life. You already have life to enjoy it all.

Let's stop idealizing and live

It is sensible and logical to achieve one goal and then think about the next. It only becomes a problem when we enjoy little of what we have at the same time. This is the key: The present moment, like it or not, is the only thing we have and entry into a full life.

Nonconformism is an inherent tendency in humans, but it does not have to lead to our life becoming embittered. Motivation, on the other hand, is vital and, to some extent, instinctive. Well, that doesn't have to be a disadvantage, however if we add to the chronic nonconformism the idealization of what we do not have, we can fall into a pit of discontentand create a parallel reality for us there.

Idealization often plays a trick on us. We miss or wish for something because we believe that if we achieved it, we would be better off. We cannot say with certainty how our future will develop until we experience it. To idealize means to blindly assign a value that usually does not correspond to the actual value. Realizing all of this is the first step in enjoying our everyday life.

We need to be aware of what we have, what we are, and enjoy what life has to offer us. We have to be careful about what we strive for and what we want. There is no such thing as a perfect life, only what we have in mind. And that's where the idealization of what we don't have, what others have and what we lack comes into play.

Sometimes we stop living our lives for something that no longer exists. Idealization is the first step towards disillusionment.

Hell is paved with neglect

We enjoy little of what we have because we don't listen. Knowing what to look for is the first step in making an assessment. Paying attention to what is important opens a window to wellbeing because who knows how to enjoy the little or much that surrounds him has recognized the essence of life. The appreciation and appreciation of the existing is of fundamental importance, to meet our needs as well as those of the people around us.

Now we share with you an ancient story that teaches us the reason why we often live focused on superficial pleasures that we cannot achieve while we miss all the positive things about our existence.

In an English castle the rule was that the visitors did not have to pay entrance fees, and that attracted most of the tourists who had come to the place. Once at the castle, there was only one condition not to be asked to pay: You had to finish the visit with a spoonful of sand in your hand and if not a gram fell, the experience was free of charge. The visitors were enthusiastic about the idea, accepted the challenge and went on the tour of the castle in order to be able to reach the end without losing a gram of sand.

As a result, most of the visitors did not pay the physical entrance fee, but a much higher price: they couldn't enjoy anything inside the castle. None of the visitors who came back with a spoon full of sand had admired the interior of the fortress, its valuable paintings, its architecture, because they had only looked at their spoons to avoid spilling the sand.

Don't be like these visitors. Take your eyes off what you think you are missing out and start enjoying what you already have today.

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