Why do I hate work

"I hate my job" - what to do if the job is more of a flop than top?

"When is the weekend finally?" If the thought of Monday makes you feel uncomfortable and you are looking forward to Friday afternoon all week, you are not alone. The feeling of not liking your job is more common than you think. According to a study, 14% of employees in Germany have already quit internally.

The job is an important part of life. It can be all the more stressful if we actually turn around when we reach the office door or prefer to lay our head on the keyboard when opening the e-mail inbox. When it is particularly bad, the thought "I hate my job" can also come to mind. Whether this is a problem at all and if so, how you can solve it - you will find out in this article.

"I hate my job" - is that even a problem?

Well, hate might seem a bit extreme, but is it really that bad if you don't like your own work? Why should it be necessary to like or even to love her? A first important reason is that you spend a ton of time here. Of the 24 hours your day has, work accounts for about a third on average. So about half the time you're even up.

Feeling uncomfortable, stressed, or depressed for a large portion of the day can have a huge impact on your overall wellbeing.

Over time, excessive demands and stress at work can even develop into real burnout. But not only too much, but also too little can contribute to the thought “I hate my job”. In this case, we speak of a boreout, a state in which you feel permanently bored or under-challenged at work.

Is it important to like the job?

Okay, hating your job isn't exactly ideal, but do you have to like it right away? We could just as easily set ourselves the goal of indifference. Yes and no. You may not have to love your job, but liking it and at least partially experiencing it as pleasant has positive consequences. If you enjoy your work, if you challenge yourself, if you are valued at work or if you see a purpose in it, this has a positive effect on your well-being - even after working hours. But how do you get closer to this goal?

"I hate my job" - Get out of the dilemma in 3 steps

First things first: You don't have to accept or endure your thought “I hate my job”. You can and should change something if your work triggers such unpleasant feelings and thoughts in you. It can help to proceed in three steps according to the so-called LCL method. This abbreviation stands for "Love it - Change it - Leave it", Which in German means as much as love it - change it - leave it". We'll tell you exactly how these three steps could look like.

Learning to love the job when the thought “I hate my job” keeps buzzing through your head may sound impossible. But it can work. We tend to focus on negatives. When we think about work, the first thing that comes to mind is the constantly nagging colleague or the boring conferences at which the boss regularly forgets the time.

In a first step, you can check whether there are positive aspects of your job that may have just been forgotten. Such a change of perspective can work wonders.

It can help to ask yourself why you started the job in the first place. What did you like? What would you miss if you changed jobs? Do you perhaps like the tasks that work brings with it or do you have a favorite colleague who always brightens up the working day? If you consciously focus your gaze on these positive aspects, your displeasure with your work may dissipate bit by bit.

However, if he stays, it is worth taking the second step.

The second step is to change the situation without having to leave your job.

First think about what exactly it is that bothers you about your work and make a list. Then think about which points you could change.

Are you maybe stuck in a project that is not really your thing? Is there a way to address that and switch? Or is your colleague particularly bothering you, who talks too loudly so that you cannot concentrate? Then it might make sense to start talking to him or to consider whether headphones or earplugs would take some of the strain off you.

In this step, it is worth trying out several changes and solutions. Give yourself some time to see if anything changes in your situation and the thought "I hate my job". However, if this thought and your feeling persist, you can realize that you don't have to stay in your job.

Of course this is not easy. A termination is often associated with financial worries or the fear of not finding a new job. It can therefore make sense not to quit overnight, but to look for a new job first.

To motivate yourself to tackle your project and to write applications, you can write down and hang up a list of all the advantages a new job would have for you.

In order to apply for a new job, it is important to know what you want. Ask yourself what kind of job you would like to do that would make you happier or happier. Also think about what bothers you about your current job and what should definitely be different for a new one. Here you can refer to your list from step two. For example, if you don't enjoy the tasks in your job, you probably won't enjoy them in another company either. If, on the other hand, it is the team that bothers you, a new start in another company could make perfect sense. You may also notice that you want to completely reorient yourself, start retraining or make an appointment with the career counseling service first.

No matter which of the three steps is right for you: by taking them, you are not at the mercy of your thoughts, "I hate my job". You take control of your well-being and make sure that a large part of your day is more pleasant. We wish you all the best!

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