Which school was totally boring

Between wrongdoing and boredom: The problem of underchallenge at school

Lilly is eleven and enjoys going to school. She makes it easy, is interested in a lot and does her tasks in the afternoon in no time at all, so that she can then pursue her leisure activities, such as dancing and playing the piano. She often finds school boring, but actually she is satisfied because she hardly has to exert herself.

Things are not exactly easy for 13-year-old Valerian at the moment. He finds school totally boring, and he can't do very much with his classmates, they are all too stupid for him. It annoys him that he always has to wait until the others understand what has just been explained. He has many conflicts with the teachers at school, and they often threaten him with being kicked out of school if he doesn't know how to behave. But actually he thinks it's all pretty unfair and is fed up with constantly adapting.

A user also reports on his child's apathy at school in the STANDARD forum:

Giftedness - a well-known phenomenon

One often hears about children with a special talent or giftedness. Parents and caregivers as well as educators have become much more prudent in the last few years and are better informed, from which one could notice that these children should receive adequate support or that they could possibly pursue their special talents much better.

Children are under-challenged at school because society tries to lump all children together so that all children of the same age should be able to solve the same tasks.

But children develop differently and can have very different skills. One child can juggle numbers better than their classmates, while the next one likes to surround themselves and play with other children and another likes to discover the world in its contexts.

But under-challenged children are not so easy to discover, because the demarcation to the general giftedness is not easy and often not easy to notice. Caution is also advised, because not every child who finds it easy in school is generally gifted and under-challenged.

If children are balanced and can postpone their thirst for knowledge to leisure, then support is required from parents and caregivers. Enabling activities and being able to pursue personal interests should create a balance for the child. Parents and caregivers at home can also provide a stimulating and exciting learning environment by providing children with books, documentations or various educational games. For example, you can solve puzzle and brain games together or look for special offers.

Dissatisfaction in school

If children are dissatisfied with school and are of the opinion that they haven't learned anything new again and that it is only boring there apart from boring, it is often not enough for them to find balance in the afternoon. If children keep coming home frustrated, sooner or later this will affect the children's motivation, their enjoyment of school and learning and the family atmosphere. Then it can happen that a child says that they no longer want to go to school.

Then other stimulating tasks and examples as well as more or different challenges than for the classmates are probably necessary.

If you observe this in your child, it is necessary to have one or more conversations with the class teacher and to consider together how you can help the child. The differentiation in the class is probably a possibility to better accompany the child on his learning path. The attitude of the adults, the accompanying conversation and the willingness to pull together are very important. The parents are also called upon to support the schooling for their part.

What options are available, what resources can be used and whether there is any possibility of differentiation in view of the respective school situation also becomes clearer in such discussions. The child may be able to receive other learning materials - or simple tasks can be replaced by more complex ones. There are many different ways, which are often not easy to find, to help children cope better with insufficient demands in such situations.

Refusal as a sign of insufficient challenge

Some children experience abnormal behavior because of boredom and frustration at not having learned enough. It can happen that the child does not want to have much connection to the classmates or acts as a class brawl, complains about the stupid classmates and does not do any homework because "It's all nothing new anyway", "These are baby tasks" and "That what's for the dummies ". Then it might make sense to change schools or skip the class.

However, since this means a serious break in the everyday life of the child, the parents and caregivers, this should be carefully planned together with the child’s teachers and the school management.

Here it is extremely important to include the child in the plans as well as possible and to explain the reason for it, because it is quite possible that the child interprets something completely different into the planned change.

Before the child really changes to the other school or class, it should have the opportunity to "sniff it out" in order to give her or him the assurance that this can be tried out first and then reversed. Children usually relax at the thought of being able to try something for the first time. It is also a relief for parents and caregivers not to have to make such a momentous decision straight away, but to come to a decision calmly and carefully after taking a closer look.

It is important for such a step that the parents and caregivers as well as the child should be aware that they will have to perform differently in the new school or class and that the situation with the good grades may also turn around very quickly. It is possible that a subject is missing that has to be relearned. This can lead to the fact that the performance initially drops a little and therefore frustration can set in again. It should be clear to everyone involved that the requirements are different in the new class and that the child has to settle in first.

But if it is clear that it will only take a temporary period of time before the material has caught up, then this definitely means that the decision has paid off for the child, parents and educators.

Your experiences?

Does your child feel underchallenged at school? How do you notice if your child is underutilized at school? Did your child skip a class? Would you make that decision again? Post your experiences, questions and ideas in the forum! (Andrea Leidlmayr, Christine Strableg, October 19, 2018)